We're "Dating"

So, BF and I talked last night and decided that what we're doing could be called dating. So, that's it...we're dating now. haha...silly titles. But this morning I kinda felt like I didn't get to talk about everything I wanted to. I'm not exactly sure what I want to say but I have a lot on my mind. I told him I can't date someone who doesn't have a job. But then I said we could consider ourselves dating already. So, that doesn't make sense. I need to clear that up. Also, I'm not sure if I'm comfortable telling people we're dating yet. Its not that I don't want them to know its him. Its more that I don't want FI to find out that BF and I are together already. Its only been a little over a month since I broke up with FI. That seems too soon. Plus, I feel kind of dumb for dating someone else within the same group of friends...like everyone is going to think I get around or something. It just feels like I need to give it time to simmer before jumping into anything like that. He also told me that since he doesn't feel like he belongs at home with his mom anymore, he considers himself homeless. Well, I definitely can't date someone who's homeless! So that's an issue too.